Becca Gerlach, LMSW ยท Therapist, Consultant & Supervisor
Being Human Is Fucking Hard. Burnout recovery for people who are tired of performing.
Therapy intensives, EMDR, and the Unmasking Ourselves community for humans trying to figure out how to be human, plus consultation for therapists who want to do this work differently.
Insight isn't the finish line
You Probably Don't Need Another Coping Skill
You can understand yourself so fucking well and still feel stuck. You know where your patterns came from, you recognize your trauma responses, and you've read the books on boundaries, attachment, masking, and burnout.
And you're still exhausted, still overthinking, still taking care of everyone else, and still performing versions of yourself that make other people comfortable.
Insight and change aren't the same thing.
Sometimes you need enough time, safety, and space to go underneath the patterns instead of talking about them for 50 minutes. That's where my work lives.
I'm Becca, a therapist, clinical social worker, consultant, supervisor, and fellow human who believes therapy should be a place where we can tell the truth about how complicated it is to be a person. Read why I created Being Human Is Fucking Hard.
A quick hello
Meet Becca
Ways to work with me
Therapy, Community, and Consultation
Burnout Recovery and EMDR Intensives
Sometimes 50 minutes isn't enough. You finally get somewhere, the session ends, and you spend the first part of next week catching up. Intensives give us room to settle in, follow what comes up, and do EMDR and trauma processing without watching the clock.
We'll talk. We'll process. We'll take breaks. We might laugh, we may swear, and you may cry (or not). The intensive is built around you, not a predetermined formula.
Unmasking Ourselves: A Six-Month Burnout Recovery Community
A lot of us have spent years becoming incredibly good at being what other people need. Successful, capable, pleasant, productive, low-maintenance, fine. Eventually you get so good at performing that you aren't sure where the performance ends and you begin.
Unmasking Ourselves is a community built around figuring that out. It's about getting curious about who you are underneath the expectations, roles, coping mechanisms, and bullshit you've collected along the way. You don't have to have yourself figured out before you come. That's kind of the point.
- Six months, with one group session a month (usually the last Friday, except November and December)
- One individual session a month on your schedule
- An online community with weekly reflections, discussions, and videos
- The Unmasking Ourselves Workbook, plus one free month of the Safe and Sound Protocol
Consultation and Supervision for Therapists
You learned how to be a therapist. Nobody taught you how to be a human who is also a therapist. Clients don't follow treatment manuals, trauma doesn't arrive neatly labeled, and documentation has real consequences.
I work with therapists who want to become more clinically confident without becoming robotic, especially those doing complex work with trauma, neurodivergence, burnout, EMDR, and psychedelics. Bring the client you can't stop thinking about, the diagnosis you're questioning, the note you're worried about, or the business side nobody prepared you for.
Why work with me
Depth Instead of Quick Fixes
I'm probably not the right therapist, consultant, or supervisor for everyone, and I'm okay with that. I work best with people who are willing to be curious and can tolerate being lovingly challenged.
I don't believe a therapist's job is to sit behind a professional mask pretending we've transcended the human experience. I haven't. I've done my own work, I keep doing it, and I won't ask you to go somewhere I'm unwilling to go myself.
You Don't Need to Become Better at Being Someone Else
Maybe the work isn't about fixing yourself. Maybe it's about understanding why you've spent so much of your life believing you needed to be fixed, and slowly building a life where you don't have to abandon yourself in order to belong.
Being human is fucking hard. We might as well stop pretending otherwise.
